Tuesday, 14 April 2015

The Answer to Happiness: accepting reality

I have been doing a lot of observing, as I do, and have realized that the world works in ways we all understand but just don't want to consider or admit. We don't admit to everything because we think we're better than that, bigger than that.

I just want to know one thing: Why do we have to struggle with this idea of striving so hard to recreate ourselves when the greatest treasures in humanity are found in facing what we have been made to be?

Now, I understand people will always have different beliefs in how the world works: you might think that we've been programmed to be a certain way, or that we make ourselves to be a certain way, or that the world is just filled with coincidences.

The one thing however that I know for sure, is that we can't deny that we meet at a common point: that of human activity.

We live as a global community having this notion that the world should work a specific way, we think we can dictate how the world should be. However, although I think it's great that we're pushing past our dissatisfaction with some of the ways of the world, the only way we can actually get things to work is if we accept the world to be one way, and work with it; not around it, and definitely not against it.

To address the cliché, we are obsessed with fame. We are obsessed with power. We are obsessed with money. All notions we have fabricated to believe are real and valuable.

Why do people praise celebrities and the well known? Because we're obsessed with the idea of being bigger, being untouchable.

If we are obsessed with this idea of being bigger, then doesn't it make sense to be happy at the end of the day? Well notice that we're not. The reason why is because; we make these false notions, false visions, false ideas of who people are; how they are, how they act. We deny that we are human.

I find that after obsessing over people's looks, lifestyles, images, and outwardly expressions, we tend to stop liking them the moment we find out that they're just like us. They may have more than us and appear to be happier, but at the end of the day they're just like us.

Human beings are all the same. We break off relationships with people who "are just like everyone else", and start relationships with people we think are perfect, "different". We fall in love with who we want them to be. Not who they are.

This may be depressing for you, discouraging even. But even if it seems that way, I want you to know that, that is not true.

This is beautiful my friend.

This is beautiful because it means we can encourage ourselves to love all of the flaws others have, mainly because it means that we can be comfortable knowing that we encompass the same imperfections. We are not alone. They are not alone. We are all humans, and even if they appear to be what they are trying so hard to be, it all boils down to who they are trying to hide.

If you can love them for who they are, for who they are hiding, you will realize that beauty does not come from the untouchable, it does not come from the bigger thing... it comes from the smallest details that make them, them.

The way they sit when you first see them, the way they stand with confidence when you first meet them, the way they say hello, the way their voice cracks when they talk about something that hurts, the way they look out of the window when they observe the beauty of the world.

The things that make them uniquely them.

If you can love that, you will be happy, because then, you have accepted reality, my friend.

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